Confidence is one of the rarest things you can’t fake. You can fake it up to an extent but it can be easily caught by an experienced person.
Confidence is something that reflects in your personality directly. Confidence is the key to success and we all want it, still, there are situations in life where you feel a lack of confidence.
Why does this happen? What is the cause of it? How can we reduce it?
Let’s try to find answers to all these questions
The Root of lack of confidence
In order to understand the root of lack of confidence, first, try to understand the factors that will make you confident in life and help you to boost your self-confidence. Nobody born with unlimited self-confidence but it is something that comes with experience and knowledge. Hence the root of lack of confidence is inappropriate experience and knowledge.
If you feel confident while you play your favorite sport, it’s because you know you are a good player. You feel confident in your favorite subject because you know your concepts are clear. Hence confidence is something that requires knowledge.
Confidence comes in two situations.
- When you know that the chances of your failure are very less or negligible.
- When you are not afraid of failures
The first point is a natural factor you don’t need to learn that. But the second factor is something you need to learn and practice. When you stop fearing from failures you will get limitless confidence. Learn from failures and work hard on that, convert that into the first point that you will not get fail in that thing again.
“If you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect anybody else to believe in you?”
Here are a few tips that can help you to boost your self-confidence and develop unshakable confidence in you. You become a confident person in and out, and it will reflect in your personality too.
Never afraid of failures
Lack of confidence comes when we have this failing. Who wants to fail in life?
When you understand that there is not a single successful person who never fails. Even the most successful people are the one who fails most of their life, just not the last time.
Only people who never fail are those who never try and these type of people cannot get success in life.
It is natural if you try you will fail sometimes but do not let this failure stop you. Instead, learn from it and never fail in the same thing again. This will give you confidence, confidence that no one can shake ever.
Expand your knowledge
Always try to expand your knowledge as much as you can. Read books, novels, articles, current affairs that will keep you up to date according to the latest trends.
Knowledge is something that can never end. It’s a learning process, keep learning new things, think out of the box and expand your knowledge.
The more knowledge you have the more confidence you will gain. Confidence comes with the right knowledge.
Master in communication
Communication is something that reflects confidence in your personality. A person in front of you can only judge you by your communication skills.
Sometimes we have proper knowledge about a topic but we lack in communication skills and are not able to present our knowledge in a proper way. This can shake your confidence that you earned in years by gaining proper knowledge about that topic. Don’t let this happen.
Become a master of communication skills. Sometimes even when we do not have enough knowledge about a particular topic but we communicate well with confidence, it makes other people feel that you have the required knowledge. Improve your communication skills and it can double your self-confidence.
Focus on your strengths
We all are weak in something or other. We keep regretting on our weakness rather than focusing on our strength.
If we all are weak in something, we all are strong in something too. If you keep regretting on your weakness you will never get that self-confidence that is required.
Instead, focus on your strengths, be the expert in your area of interest that no one can beat you in that field. Be confident because now you are an expert in that particular field rather than feeling under-confident because of your weaknesses.
Do a SWOT analysis for yourself.
Focus on your strengths, try to eliminate your weaknesses, grab the opportunities and eliminate the threats from life.
Maybe you are poor in studies but are you good at sports or in the arts. Maybe you suck at relationships but are you good in friendships or family relationships. We all are good in something just focus on that part of you and boost your self-confidence like a pro.
Help other people
One of the best exercises to boost your self-confidence is to help other people. Confidence comes with the feeling of satisfaction and when you help others, it gives you the feeling of satisfaction automatically.
Nothing is greater than the feeling when you help someone and they thank you after achieving their goal. This feeling will boost your confidence when you know someone is happy because of you. You actually changed a life for the better
Confidence is something that is not just related to you but also the people around you. Try to help the people genuinely whenever you get the opportunity, and it will change you in the process. It can make you confident in life and boost your self-confidence as well.
Talk to yourself
Self-confidence builds when you know yourself in and out completely. We are so busy in our life that we don’t have time even for ourselves. Slow down a bit, nothing is wrong in this. You are not running in an Olympic race.
Spent some time with yourself and talk to yourself. Ask yourself questions like exactly why you have a lack of confidence. Read about the people who are already established in that field, analyze what different are they doing. Improve yourself continuously with time and build confidence.
Sometimes we are seeking for the solution from outside while the real solution is within us only. When your mind is calm, you can think properly, you will find that the solution you are seeking for is always in front of you. Self-introspection is the therapy that even experts recommend to help you fight with a lack of confidence.
Invest in good relationships and friendships
No matter how good we are, there comes a point in our life where we fall to a zero confidence level. At this moment it is quite difficult for us to restore our confidence level ourselves. We need some help from outside, and we look upon the people we trust.
Invest in your relationships and true friendships because these are the people that will help you in these low moments. When you know you have someone who is there for you in every situation you feel confident.
You are confident because no matter how bad the situation will become you are not alone to fight it. It will automatically help you to build confidence. These people will help you to restore your lost self-confidence.
To become confident in life and boost your self-confidence follow these points. You will never face a lack of confidence again.